Famous Cancer-Libra Couples: Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee
This is a bossy combo! Believe it or not, these two will fight for control more than practically any other pair. Their only salvation is to give the Cancer woman complete control of the household if there is to be any peace at all. But unfortunately, Libra seems to bring out the worst in Cancer.
How to Attract a Cancer Woman as a Libra Man: You can begin by promising her a beautiful home some day. Really, this lady is so bossy and hell-bent on domesticity, or whatever she equates with financial security, that you have to speak the language very plainly to get through to her. She is the type of woman likely to have an agenda. She knows the year she wants to marry, the year she wants to have kids, the year she wants to quit work, the year she wants to take her first trip to Europe, etc., etc. It may appeal to you because you are somewhat like that yourself but perhaps you do not realize that her bossiness will know no end. Giving her what she wants will only encourage her to ask for more. Happily, she is not likely to step over into your territory if you give her control over the home.
How to Attract a Libra Man as a Cancer Woman: Show an interest in his career and convince him you will be an asset to his climb to the top. Demonstrate superior social skills. Show him you will make a good hostess for his clients and associates and talk about running a home like running a business. Engage in discussions of financial security unemotionally and without batting an eye. Underneath your stereotypical layers of domesticity, you’re a calculating machine, so show it. It’s the fast track to his information center.
Degree of Romance: You, dear little Cancer, will insist on every single accoutrement of romance. You will nag, whine, weep and manipulate until you get what you want on Mother’s Day, Valentine’s day, your birthday, major religious holidays, and will demand reciprocity after you put out for anything, such as entertaining his parents or granting a special favour in the boudoir. You strike a hard bargain.
Degree of Passion: None.
Degree of Friendship: It’s more like business partners than friendship.
Degree of Marriage: This can be a successful first union if it focuses on the formulaic aspects of marriage such as building a career and furnishing a home. Because of Cancer’s proclivity to focus on the home, these may drift apart but not notice it for years. She will be happy as long as he buys her stuff for the house, and he will be happy as long as she stays in it. Maybe that’s more than most couples have.
Progression of Relationship: Cancer will design a series of channel locks which Libra will have to navigate successfully to round the bases and touch home. These steps are likely to include presents, weekend trips, dealing with the parents, a fur coat, whatever the traffic will allow … she‘ll keep raising the bar. The sheer logic of it has some appeal for Libra. She is speaking in an algebraic language that might be translated as follows: if you do this for me, I will do that for you. The Libra, being a Libra, will trot right along. The danger is that this quid pro quo approach will degenerate into manipulation. If it does, the Libra will turn very cold indeed. Though she will hardly notice, the end will not then be far.
Sex: Sex for this couple is like collecting green stamps (for those of you old enough to remember green stamps). After she gets a few, she’ll want to trade them in for an upgrade. Ms. Cancer is always keeping score and planning her next move. If your mind is on your work, Libra, you might not have noticed that you‘re being taken. Cancer can do a good imitation of motherliness and caring but there’s a price exacted. Her special favours will require special arrangements. Libra is not the victim, though. He‘s a shrewd negotiator, and after all, he created this monster.
When It’s Over: This relationship will end in one place and one place alone: the deep freeze. That’s after you’ve sliced and diced each other under the guise of equity and fairness. This can be one of the most bitter endings conceivable.
Our Rating: Buyer beware!